A hotwife is a married woman who has sexual relationships outside of her marriage, with the full knowledge and consent of her husband, who himself doesn’t have affairs.
Hotwifing is the wife-sharing arrangement or act of carrying out such affairs. Not to be confused with Swinging.
Origin of the phrase
The idea of hotwifing comes from the concept of a husband showing off and sharing his “hot wife.” The non-monogamous arrangement is related to a Cuckolding fetish, and many (but not all) husbands in such a relationship refer to themselves as Cuckolds or Hot-Wifers.
The difference between hotwifing and cheating is consent: In a hotwife arrangement, the husband is fully aware and supportive of his wife’s affairs. In many cases, one spouse or the other even gains sexual arousal from the arrangement due to Voyeurism, the thrill of doing something taboo, or an infidelity and/or jealousy fetish.
Hotwifing isn’t exactly Swinging because only one partner is having extramarital sex. One of the most important aspects though is that both partners are open and trusting with each other. It only works if both partners are mutually onboard; the hotwifing arrangement often falls apart when one partner becomes uncomfortable with non-monogamy or when one partner feels pressured against their will to participate.
In some cases, there really aren’t any affairs taking place in hotwifing. For some, it’s mainly a foreplay exercise to talk through a hypothetical fantasy of infidelity.
The term first started showing up online in the mid-1990s, mostly among message boards for swingers and Exhibitionists. The term spread in late 1997 in personal ads involving husbands wanting to show off their hot wives before further taking hold online.
HotWife Uses= The term is mostly used in the swinger and non-monogamous communities, as well as among hotwife fetishists. It’s popular enough as a fantasy that it also shows up as a tag on various porn websites.
Online, there are also entire forums, websites, and at least one subreddit dedicated to hotwifing, where people come together to share stories and find community around the practice.
Given its explicit nature, hotwife may be considered vulgar or obscene.
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