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Non-penetrative sex or outercourse is sexual activity which does not include sexual penetration, such as the penetrative aspects of vaginal, anal or oral sexual activity. The physical intimacy includes various forms of sexual and non-sexual activity, such as frottage, mutual masturbation, kissing or cuddling.
Non-penetrative sex may be used as an alternative to penile-vaginal penetration, the aim may be to preserve virginity or to prevent pregnancy. Some couples engage in non-penetrative sex as part of foreplay, and it is often considered a form of safer sex and birth control, as it is less likely that bodily fluids are exchanged.
Mutual masturbation (also called manual intercourse) involves the manual stimulation of genitals by two or more people who stimulate themselves or one another. This may be done in situations where the participants do not feel ready, physically able, socially at liberty, or simply willing to have full sexual intercourse but still wish to have a mutual sexual act. It is also done as part of the full repertoire of sexual intercourse, where it may be used as an interlude, as foreplay or simply as an alternative to penetration. For some, it is the primary sexual activity of choice above all others.
Mutual masturbation can be practiced by couples of any sexual orientation; it may be used as an alternative to penile-vaginal penetration, to preserve virginity or to prevent pregnancy.
Mutual masturbation might result in one or more of the partners achieving orgasm. If no bodily fluids are exchanged (as is common), mutual masturbation is a form of safe sex, and greatly reduces the risk of transmission of sexual diseases. As such, it was encouraged among gay men by some safer sex organizations in the wake of the AIDS outbreak of the 1980s, as an alternative to anal or oral sex.
In partnered manual genital stroking to reach orgasm or expanded orgasm, both people focus on creating and experiencing an orgasm in one person. Typically, one person lies down pant-less, while his or her partner sits alongside. The partner who is sitting uses his or her hands and fingers (typically with a lubricant) to slowly stroke the clitoris or penis and genitals of the partner. Expanded orgasm as a mutual masturbation technique is said to create orgasm experiences more intense and extensive than what can be described as, or included in the definition of, a regular orgasm. It includes a range of sensations that include orgasms that are full-bodied, and orgasms that last from a few minutes to many hours. The term was coined in 1995 by Patricia Taylor. However, this technique is not without risk of contracting STDs, in particular HIV. A person using his or her finger, with a small wound, to stimulate a woman's genitals could be infected with HIV found in her vagina's fluids; likewise regarding a man's semen containing HIV which could infect a partner who has a small exposed wound on his or her skin.
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