The dictionary defines it as this:- "pertaining to partipation in multiple and simultaneous loving or sexual relationships"
People who are Polyamorous, are those who engage in "Polyamory", the word comes from;-
the Greek πολύ "poly", which means "many" or "several", and the Latin word "amor", "love". Polyamorous is the practice, or the desire, or just the acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at any one time, but also with the knowledge and full consent of everyone involved.
It should not be confused with Swinging, which focuses mostly on the sex rather than the relationship and Swinging is mostly recreational. Also Polyamory may or may not include polysexuality, which is attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes.
Polyamory, often abbreviated as "poly", has been described as "consensual, ethical, and responsible non-monogamy."
The word is sometimes used in a broader sense to refer to sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies; an emphasis on ethics, honesty, and transparency all around is widely regarded as the crucial defining characteristic.
The term Polyamorous has been used as an umbrella term to cover various forms of multiple relationships, in reality, Polyamorous relationships/arrangements can be as varied as the people who are involved, it reflects on the choices and philosophies of the individuals who practice Polyamory.
The majority of polygamous cultures are polygynous throughout their culture, these cultures tend to be one husband with multiple wives, although there are Polyandrous societies, where one wife has multiple husbands, these are less common but do exist.
Marriage is not a requirement in polyamorous relationships, but the knowledge and consent of all partners concerned is a defining factor.
Distinguishing polyamory from traditional forms of non-monogamy (e.g., "cheating") or Swinging, Polyamory is an ideology of openness, goodwill, truthful communication, and ethical behavior, which is expected to prevail among all the parties involved.
As of July 2009, it was estimated that more than 500,000 polyamorous relationships existed in the United States.
A main feature of Polyamorous relationships, is that the people involved, generally reject the point of view that sexual and relational exclusivity is necessary for a deep, committed, long-term loving relationships.
Not everyone is emotionally suited to a Polyamorous relationship, but those who are, may embark on a polyamorous relationship when single or already in a monogamous or open relationship.
Sex is not necessarily a primary focus in polyamorous relationships, which commonly consist of people seeking to build long-term relationships with more than one person on mutually agreeable grounds, with sex as only one aspect of their relationships.
Fidelity and loyalty
Many polyamorists define fidelity not as sexual exclusivity, but as faithfulness to the promises and agreements made about a relationship. A secret sexual relationship that violates those accords would be seen as a breach of fidelity. Polyamorists generally base definitions of commitment on considerations other than sexual exclusivity, e.g. "trust and honesty" or "growing old together"
Communication and negotiation
Because there is no "standard model" for polyamorous relationships, and reliance upon common expectations may not be realistic, polyamorists often advocate explicitly negotiating with all involved to establish the terms of their relationships, and often emphasize that this should be an ongoing process of honest communication and respect. Polyamorists will usually take a pragmatic approach to their relationships; many accept that sometimes they and their partners will make mistakes and fail to live up to these ideals, and that communication is important for repairing any breaches.
Trust, honesty, dignity, and respect
Most polyamorists emphasize respect, trust, and honesty for all partners. Ideally, a partner's partners are accepted as part of that person's life rather than merely tolerated, and usually a relationship that requires deception or a "don't ask don't tell" policy is seen as a less than ideal model.
Boundaries and agreements
Poly relationships often involve negotiating agreements, and establishing specific boundaries, or "ground rules"; such agreements vary widely and may change over time, but could include, for example: consultation about new relationships; devising schedules that work for everyone; limits on physical displays of affection in public or among mixed company; and budgeting the amount of money a partner can spend on additional partners.
Many polyamorists do not believe in different relationship "rules" based on gender, a point of contrast with some forms of religious non-monogamy which are often patriarchically based. Commonly, however, couples first expanding an existing monogamous relationship into a polyamorous one, may adhere to gender-specific boundaries until all parties are comfortable with the new dynamic, such as when a wife agrees not to engage sexually with another male at her husband's request, but may be allowed to have romantic and sexual relationships with women. Such terms and boundaries are negotiable, and such asymmetric degrees of freedom among the partners (who need not be of different genders) are more often due to individual differences and needs, and are usually understood to be temporary and within a negotiated time frame until further opening up of the relationship becomes practicable or easier for the parties to handle emotionally.
Many polyamorists view excessive restrictions on other deep relationships as less than desirable, as such restrictions can be used to replace trust with a framework of ownership and control. It is usually preferred or encouraged that a polyamorist strive to view their partners' other significant others (often referred to as OSOs) in terms of the gain to their partners' lives rather than a threat to their own. Therefore, jealousy and possessiveness are generally viewed not so much as something to avoid or structure the relationships around, but as responses that should be explored, understood, and resolved within each individual, with compersion as a goal.
Polyamory Pride Flag
The meaning of the colors:
Blue, represents the openness and honesty among all partners with which people who are polyamorous conduct their multiple relationships.
Red, represents love and passion.
Black, represents solidarity with those who, though they are open and honest with all participants of their relationships, must hide those relationships from the outside world due to societal pressures.
The gold Greek lowercase letter, “pi" (π), is the first letter of “polyamory”, this represents the value that people who are polyamorous place on the emotional attachment to others, be the relationship friendly or romantic in nature, as opposed to merely primarily physical relationships.
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